Knowing what to expect from online dating will give you a better and safer online dating experience. There are different reasons why people choose online dating. It can be because they are new in town, have a job with a tough schedule that won’t allow a regular social life, or simply they tried everything and it didn’t work. We have seen it all. The truth is that most people who decide to try online dating have good and sincere intentions. However, oftentimes expectations can be unrealistic.
Online dating platforms don’t equal matchmaking services
Online dating platforms are not necessarily matchmaking platforms. Just because you build a profile doesn’t mean you’ll get 10 options to choose your prince charming based on a “perfect match” a couple of minutes later. It is also not a promise that you will get that perfect match. Many factors are involved in your success. The right person may or may not be there for you. Also, your effort will affect how successful you are at this. Your online dating expectations may not match the other person’s. At Latin Conexiones, we want to give you the opportunity to meet other Latinos you wouldn’t meet otherwise.
Timing in online dating and bots
People may not connect with you right away. In fact, it may take days for someone to contact you. There are platforms where you get hooked up with a message right away. However, this message is not always written by an actual person. Keep in mind many online dating sites use bots. At LatinConexiones, we have real profiles handled by real people. So, everyone handles their own reach outs and they are truly written by an actual person. To keep the experience as real as possible and avoid misunderstandings, we do not allow bots on our site.
Online dating can be very time-consuming. Be careful with how much time you spend reaching out and focus on how many dates you actually get and are able to meet. Quality is more important than quantity! Check out some online dating mistakes to avoid.
Pricing of online dating
It’s natural to think at first that you shouldn’t have to pay to meet other people. If you are in the street and you happen to meet someone, you don’t pay. If you are on Instagram and send a message to some profile you found who agrees to go on a date, you don’t pay either. However, you usually go to an online dating platform because those other ways didn’t work for you. So now, you are going to a place set up by a company who pays to build the site, maintain it, and makes sure your information is secure. LatinConexiones is a place that gives you a safe environment to talk to other people who you already know are looking for the same thing. This is not you going out to meet people, this is someone else providing you the platform for you to have more chances to find that person. An this is the reason why online dating platforms have a cost.
Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right WHEN DATING ONLINE
The truth is that you may still not find that person or it can take a while. Just because you are going online, it doesn’t mean you are going to have a lot of dates knocking at your door. You also have to do your job and build a complete and realistic profile and pursue others. You can’t expect for people to come after you. Online dating just like with offline dating, require time and patience. It will also require interacting with many people, getting rejected and going on many dates just as in your normal life. Remember, the online dating platform is just there to provide you direct access to more people looking for the same thing who you may not be able to meet otherwise. It does not ensure a happy ever after story. That is on you.
Online dating sites and SECURITY
Just like at work, in the street, or at a party, there will be inappropriate people who will come in with not the best intentions. However, unlike in the offline world, on our site, we look for ways to catch these people and close their profiles. We believe in love and giving our clients a safe space to find it. Also, when in doubt, always go with your gut and report anything you think is suspicious. People are not always who they seem. We have a very strict privacy and security policy and review every case reported thoroughly to avoid these situations.
On the other hand, when we talk about love and dating we need to understand that not everyone has the same concept of love, dating, and what a relationship should be like. So, before putting yourself out there, figure out what you want and make sure your profile and interactions with other members reflect it. This will help you have more successful encounters and dates and reduce frustration.
Answering to everyone who REACHES OUT
Part of the online dating expectation tends to be that if someone tries to connect with you, you have to respond and connect back. Remember it’s ok to say no or not answer if you don’t feel comfortable. Don’t feel bad for handing of a rejection. If you entertain something you are not truly interested in you will not just be wasting your time but also the other person’s. However, try to always be nice on your rejections. There are ways to do things. Think about what you would like to be told if you were on the other end.
Imitating others and making yourself look good WHEN DATING ONLINE
If you start by faking your profile and not being true to yourself on the interactions, chances are you will fail at online dating. The reason being that you can’t base any relationship on lies or a distorted reality. Not only you will suffer and the other person too, but you may also even get kicked out of the platform if it obvious. Remember, you are looking for a real relationship. For that, you need to be real and true to yourself. Check out some of our tips on how to create your online dating profile.
Overall, online dating is a safe growing practice that allows more people to connect and increase the possibilities of finding that special someone. Understand your online dating expectations and make sure they are realistic. And if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to contact us.