What to expect from online dating

What To Expect From Online Dating

Knowing what to expect from online dating will give you a better and safer online dating experience. There are different reasons why people choose online dating. It can be because they are new in town, have a job with a tough schedule that won’t allow a regular social life, or simply they tried everything and it didn’t work. We have seen it all. The truth is that most people who decide to try online dating have good and sincere intentions. However,  oftentimes expectations can be unrealistic.

Online dating platforms don’t equal matchmaking services

Online dating platforms are not necessarily matchmaking platforms. Just because you build a profile doesn’t mean you’ll get 10 options to choose your prince charming based on a “perfect match” a couple of minutes later. It is also not a promise that you will get that perfect match. Many factors are involved in your success. The right person may or may not be there for you. Also, your effort will affect how successful you are at this. Your online dating expectations may not match the other person’s. At Latin Conexiones, we want to give you the opportunity to meet other Latinos you wouldn’t meet otherwise.

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Timing in online dating and bots

What to expect from online dating

People may not connect with you right away. In fact, it may take days for someone to contact you. There are platforms where you get hooked up with a message right away. However, this message is not always written by an actual person. Keep in mind many online dating sites use bots. At LatinConexiones, we have real profiles handled by real people. So, everyone handles their own reach outs and they are truly written by an actual person. To keep the experience as real as possible and avoid misunderstandings, we do not allow bots on our site.
Online dating can be very time-consuming. Be careful with how much time you spend reaching out and focus on how many dates you actually get and are able to meet. Quality is more important than quantity! Check out some online dating mistakes to avoid.


Pricing of online dating

It’s natural to think at first that you shouldn’t have to pay to meet other people. If you are in the street and you happen to meet someone, you don’t pay. If you are on Instagram and send a message to some profile you found who agrees to go on a date, you don’t pay either. However, you usually go to an online dating platform because those other ways didn’t work for you. So now, you are going to a place set up by a company who pays to build the site, maintain it, and makes sure your information is secure. LatinConexiones is a place that gives you a safe environment to talk to other people who you already know are looking for the same thing. This is not you going out to meet people, this is someone else providing you the platform for you to have more chances to find that person. An this is the reason why online dating platforms have a cost.

Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right WHEN DATING ONLINE

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The truth is that you may still not find that person or it can take a while. Just because you are going online, it doesn’t mean you are going to have a lot of dates knocking at your door. You also have to do your job and build a complete and realistic profile and pursue others. You can’t expect for people to come after you. Online dating just like with offline dating, require time and patience. It will also require interacting with many people, getting rejected and going on many dates just as in your normal life. Remember, the online dating platform is just there to provide you direct access to more people looking for the same thing who you may not be able to meet otherwise. It does not ensure a happy ever after story. That is on you.


Online dating sites and SECURITY

Just like at work, in the street, or at a party, there will be inappropriate people who will come in with not the best intentions. However, unlike in the offline world, on our site, we look for ways to catch these people and close their profiles. We believe in love and giving our clients a safe space to find it. Also, when in doubt, always go with your gut and report anything you think is suspicious. People are not always who they seem. We have a very strict privacy and security policy and review every case reported thoroughly to avoid theonline dating safetyse situations.

On the other hand, when we talk about love and dating we need to understand that not everyone has the same concept of love, dating, and what a relationship should be like. So, before putting yourself out there, figure out what you want and make sure your profile and interactions with other members reflect it. This will help you have more successful encounters and dates and reduce frustration.


Answering to everyone who REACHES OUT

Part of the online dating expectation tends to be that if someone tries to connect with you, you have to respond and connect back. Remember it’s ok to say no or not answer if you don’t feel comfortable. Don’t feel bad for handing of a rejection. If you entertain something you are not truly interested in you will not just be wasting your time but also the other person’s. However, try to always be nice on your rejections. There are ways to do things. Think about what you would like to be told if you were on the other end.

Imitating others and making yourself look good WHEN DATING ONLINE

If you start by faking your profile and not being true to yourself on the interactions, chances are you will fail at online dating. The reason being that you can’t base any relationship on lies or a distorted reality. Not only you will suffer and the other person too, but you may also even get kicked out of the platform if it obvious. Remember, you are looking for a real relationship. For that, you need to be real and true to yourself. Check out some of our tips on how to create your online dating profile.

Overall, online dating is a safe growing practice that allows more people to connect and increase the possibilities of finding that special someone. Understand your online dating expectations and make sure they are realistic. And if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to contact us.

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Online Relationships

To meet someone online and building a relationship has a lot of similarities to meeting someone in real life and is becoming more and more common.  The increasing number of happy couples who met online are enough evidence for us to realize that valid relationships can be built from online dating sites.

LatinConexiones does not pretend to have the credentials to be a love expert or a relationship expert but we have a wealth of information that comes from online dating industry and we have many concerned experts in related fields who willingly share advice, concern and guidance for users of our site.  Much of what we share in this article applies to building lasting and meaningful relationships in all areas of our lives.

A true relationship begins with honesty.  In all of our relationships we have the freedom to choose who we want to be and how we want to treat other people.  There are two forms of honesty that are necessary when we use online dating services.  Honesty with ourselves is extremely important when we launch our online activities and we must remain true to our intentions.  We will constantly be challenged because we will certainly meet many new people.  It is easy to become distracted with the many opportunities that will be presented.

Honesty with the new friends that we will meet is exactly what you would expect to receive from them.  Honesty toward your new person of interest is absolutely necessary in the communication as you begin the journey to know each other and again honesty is what you expect because you know how critical it is to your judgement and feelings and the ability to build trust.

There are many profiles of pages on dating sites that ask for trust and respect.  There is a some trust and respect that is granted due to our human nature and because we have been taught the principles of the “Golden Rule”.  But we must deserve the kind of trust that enables us to build and sustain meaningful and lasting relationships.

Not for a specified time period such as through the courting stage.  Trust is earned every moment of every day for the rest of our lives.  And all that we have invested in our honesty for all of our previous moments can be lost in this moment if we choose, if only for one moment, not to be honest.  Once the trust is lost we may or may not be able to restore new trust.

Respect is also earned.  It is also based on honesty, our trustworthiness, and other qualities that we habitually manifest.  Speak with integrity remembering that our actions are a louder form of communication than the spoken word.  Become thoroughly comfortable with doing the right thing.

Focus on the good and honest communication that you can control.  Unlike real life relationships, some people who are online can hide behind a profile and photos and anonymity and may not have the same good intentions that you have.  They cannot be controlled and they cannot be changed.  It is your job to maintain your caution, keep your antennae raised, trust your 6th sense and do your part to make the relationship work.  If you do and the other person does not then you know that the failed attempt was not your fault.  Move forward and begin your new search.

Online dating has many advantages that help users launch their search for their ideal match or their ideal soul mate.  Although many have found a partner it is wise to keep the expectations realistic.

New relationships usually begin with the discovery of many similarities.  When the relationship grows both enter the most intimate core of a person where we may find some slight differences.  This is common.  Different cultural backgrounds, environments and life-experiences produce different reference criteria that influence how we think, feel and how we relate.  Continue the discovery until it is possible to understand how the other person may have been molded to what is you see today.

The similarities are usually revealed early in the communication while the differences take a little longer to surface.  It is necessary to discover those difference so you can evaluate whether they are minor or important to your system of values, morals, ethics and principles.  The possibility of agreeing on everything your new friend says or does is remote and the search for the perfect person should not impede your search for the person who is perfect for you.

There are some keys to identifying similarities and differences that can lead to a happy relationship and they are mentioned in a great article on the internet.  These fundamental areas are mutual respect, the ability to communicate without arguing or fighting, attitudes about sex, agreement on how to raise children, how each handles money, has similar goals and the ability to be happy, have fun and laugh together.

Everything you need to know about your new person of interest can be discovered through communication.  That person should be as anxious to share with you as much information as possible so you can continue to decide to move forward in the relationship.  If you want that person to have the same desire to move forward then you must share as much information about you as possible while remembering to protect your privacy and safety.

Remember, you have the right to ask questions and seek consistency to know if the truths have been stretched or defects have been hidden. You need to know if the indicated values and qualities are really the core of the person, and that the true heart and soul have been revealed. It is not necessary to directly challenge inconsistencies, but warning flags must be recognized to help you.